Am I a covert narcissist?

Am I a covert narcissist?

I have just spent another few hours investigating narcissism, and began to wonder in the course of this if I qualified as a covert (shy) cerebral narcissist.  To cut to the chase, I failed to make the grade.

Why?  I failed this test Are you an undercover narcissist?

I qualify as self-centred, but I am a dismal failure as a narc.

It is a bit miraculous, given my family background.  My eldest sister is an overt narcissist, my mother has some narc qualities, but is more complex.  My father was strongly empath.  I have at least two exs with strong markers for covert narcissism.  My brother is an undiagnosed depressive (the NHS prefers to diagnose professional depressives as having ME), and my other sister is so twisted that I have not even begun to figure out what her problem is, beyond the alcohol.

So, from the perspective of someone who has, one way or another, always had to deal with at least one narcissist, it is no wonder that I am always on the look-out for the familiar.

Youtube is a hotbed of information for people who would like to qualify as the victims of narcissism.  Reasons vary from actual abuse, to simply wondering why their text messages are not returned.

Whilst diagnosing your friends and family with personality disorders is always a fun way to spend the afternoon, it does not mean that you can actually do anything about it.  I do not plan to bother telling any of them, since it is not something that you can do terribly much about.  As my father demonstrated, the only thing you can do is avoid them if you can and keep working.

In the event that you are the victim of a narcissist and become aware of it, the best thing to do is get out of the situation, rather than assuming that you can do anything about it or force them to change.  Any self-respecting narc will then simply move on to a more fruitful target, rather than making an endless tit of themselves completing any creative or pop-academic projects. (as I have been doing)

One day, I will be free of this situation and will probably live in penury in a cottage in the middle of nowhere.  I will then struggle to feed my cats and keep a car on the road in the course of putting some work out.  In the meantime, whilst I have access to the university library, I am going to complete the next two big books – both of which require actual research – whilst I finish the Best Ever project.

I have, in the meantime, been getting used to the idea of people looking at me, so I have made a stack of youtube videos, which thankfully few people are watching.  This should desensitize me to the extreme intolerance to people which I seem to have acquired over the last five years or so.  I did not always cringe quite so much, but then I did not always form irrational attachments to people in public. (see previous posts)

I am trying to think how to improve my presentation skills, which I will work on further later on in my rebuild project, as I am still very unhappy about my looks at the moment.  I think it is a case of making a bad video, and then remaking it until it looks better.

As the ‘victim’ of narc abuse since I was about three, I would agree that it can affect your health and self-image, but if it is your family you do not have the option of crumbling and running for help.  You basically grow up knowing that something is wrong.

The head narc in my family used this to indicate that something was wrong with me.  She is still doing it. The only thing I have been able to do to counteract this is cut my siblings out of my life entirely, since the delusion is so deeply engrained (it was also encouraged by my mother)  that there is just no point in even trying to discuss it with anybody.

The point I am trying to make is – you don’t need to choose to be a ‘victim’ of a narcissist.  You can choose to accept that you are dealing with an entirely unreasonable and irrational individual who hates you and lies about it.  Then you can take appropriate action to preserve yourself and any available loved ones as necessary.  I have been saying for many years that if I had any sense I would have got as far away from these people as possible.  If I had done so, there would be nothing left for them to fight about, including no mother and no money.

What does alarm me, is that I have chosen at least one best friend and two boyfriends who were narcs with added violence.  This indicates that I have to select on a more deliberate basis than mere attraction as I am likely to make poor choices. I have also shown some narc tendencies, as I have seen this afternoon.  Led by example, I presume, although unlike the narcs in my life I am entirely capable of being reasonable.  I can also assure you that there is nothing wrong with my empathy or ability to form intimate relationships. I am no angel, but as far as listening to problems is concerned, if anything I have wasted far too much time and energy on it, to the point of taking years to figure out I am being played for a sucker by yet another covert narc!

To conclude, don’t get hysterical about selfish people who throw tantrums and turn the conversation back to something that went wrong long before they met you.  They aren’t all actually monsters.  Sometimes the histrionics can be extremely entertaining.  It is all in your attitude.  If you cannot handle it, you are probably best to just leave.

 

 

 

You may also like

232 Comments

  1. Pingback: cbd oil for dogs
  2. Pingback: Exterminators
  3. Pingback: Exterminators
  4. Pingback: virtual dating
  5. Pingback: 3D Conventions
  6. Pingback: red caviar
  7. Pingback: red caviar
  8. Pingback: black caviar
  9. Pingback: salmon caviar
  10. Pingback: salmon caviar
  11. Pingback: Buy Gellan Gum
  12. Pingback: Buy Gellan Gum
  13. Pingback: Cinogel Biotech
  14. Pingback: beluga caviar
  15. Pingback: red caviar
  16. Pingback: ikura
  17. Pingback: Cocaine for sale
  18. Pingback: Buy cocain online
  19. Pingback: Buy heroin Online
  20. Pingback: Red Caviar
  21. Pingback: Red Caviar
  22. Pingback: Red Caviar
  23. Pingback: Research Chemicals
  24. Pingback: THC vape oil
  25. Pingback: edmonton
  26. Pingback: Karen Ball Books
  27. Pingback: Magnet Fishing
  28. Pingback: SEO статьи
  29. Pingback: Magnet Fishing
  30. Pingback: Magnet Fishing
  31. Pingback: Magnet Fishing
  32. Pingback: Magnet Fishing
  33. Pingback: Magnet Fishing
  34. Pingback: Husky Puppies
  35. Pingback: tzygwnjd
  36. Pingback: Cockapoo Puppy
  37. Pingback: Dank vapes
  38. Pingback: Dank Vapes
  39. Pingback: Basenji Mix
  40. Pingback: Dank vapes
  41. Pingback: Dank Carts
  42. Pingback: Buy Ecstasy
  43. Pingback: Download Lagu
  44. Pingback: Ps5 for sale
  45. Pingback: Buy Weed Online
  46. Pingback: Ayahuasca For sale
  47. Pingback: Ketamine For sale
  48. Pingback: Magic Truffles
  49. Pingback: 5-meo DMT For Sale
  50. Pingback: Buy LSD
  51. Pingback: 4-AcO DMT For Sale
  52. Pingback: Buy Dmt Online
  53. Pingback: SEO Consulting
  54. Pingback: What Is SEO
  55. Pingback: SEO
  56. Pingback: SEO Consultant
  57. Pingback: Google
  58. Pingback: B2B Saas SEO
  59. Pingback: SEO Agency
  60. Pingback: SEO Expert
  61. Pingback: Psalm 91 Kjv
  62. Pingback: Hail Holy Queen
  63. Pingback: Book Of Revelation
  64. Pingback: New Testament
  65. Pingback: Healing Scriptures
  66. Pingback: Supplication
  67. Pingback: DMT for sale
  68. Pingback: Buy cocaine online
  69. Pingback: 1P-LSD
  70. Pingback: LSD for sale
  71. Pingback: kratom capsules
  72. Pingback: k2 e liquid
  73. Pingback: urple drank
  74. Pingback: Marijuana Strains
  75. Pingback: Vape Shop
  76. Pingback: Kingpen cartridge
  77. Pingback: THC Cartridge
  78. Pingback: 카지노사이트
  79. Pingback: ไฮโล
  80. Pingback: Fluorococaine buy
  81. Pingback: Learn More
  82. Pingback: Tshirt designs
  83. Pingback: Tshirt design
  84. Pingback: Supreme t shirts
  85. Pingback: White tshirt
  86. Pingback: Anime t shirts
  87. Pingback: T shirt maker
  88. Pingback: Sweatshirt
  89. Pingback: Wet tshirt
  90. Pingback: Polo t shirts
  91. Pingback: Funny t shirts
  92. Pingback: Thrasher t shirt
  93. Pingback: Supreme t shirts
  94. Pingback: White tshirt
  95. Pingback: T shirt maker
  96. Pingback: Fake Credit Cards
  97. Pingback: Get Free Money
  98. Pingback: safestore auto
  99. Pingback: deadhead OG strain
  100. Pingback: blue dragon strain
  101. Pingback: buy cocaine online
  102. Pingback: Webdesign jona
  103. Pingback: buy delta 8
  104. Pingback: 우리카지노
  105. Pingback: 퍼스트카지노
  106. Pingback: 샌즈카지노
  107. Pingback: 메리트카지노
  108. Pingback: 코인카지노
  109. Pingback: crypto
  110. Pingback: mac 10
  111. Pingback: glock 19

Leave a Reply