One of the exs, who befriended me this week to borrow a ladder (I kid you not) last night announced that my objection to his attempts to sabotage my health constituted an eating disorder.
This guy has just spent three years with us, on and off, and is well aware that in the course of his gaining 14lb I gained 140lb eating the same thing. He literally just watched that happen. I am very active within the constraints of taking care of my mother and this place, basically the only difference between us is that I am constantly under a great deal of stress, which is usually made worse by spending time with an unpredictable and potentially violent person who is apparently obsessed with getting attention in the form of food and interest.
This is one of the main weaknesses of declaring yourself a raw foodist. Your former friends just don’t get it. They believe everything they have been told and think that you aren’t getting a balanced diet. Another objection, which I have just read from a Paleo site, is that the use of superfood products just ain’t natural.
The social difficulties of retaining your raw diet include not being able to eat out, being an awkward guest at parties, frequently finding yourself either very hungry or eating non hydrated nuts because nothing else is available, and basically avoiding social events because you know you will be unable to eat anything that you haven’t prepared. You can get as obsessive as you want, the opportunities are endless, but there are workarounds for almost any problem. Fairly early on, I came across someone who had managed to remain raw whilst eating from a MacDonalds, so I figured, you have to be a little flexible.
In recent years, thanks to some of the wrecking attempts of close observers of the raw foodies, it transpired that almost nobody was 100 percent raw, even though they were telling you they were. Having actually done it for some time, I concluded that my first impression was correct. 90% is as much as is sensible. That was certainly the case for me, but as I come from a cold, meat obsessed country, it may not be the case for everybody.
Another frequently observed criticism is that raw veganism, as it is sometimes misnamed, represents extreme asceticism, in other words you are not only vegan, you are raw vegan. This is a typical reaction of somebody that has never either done it, or thought about it. Many raw vegans are not actually vegan, using bee pollen and honey, for example. I prefer raw foodist, as it conveys the same difficulties in feeding yourself without the loaded moral gun. Besides which, my ten percent involves smoked fish. From a personal perspective, it is more of a way of indicating that I am unlikely to suddenly enjoy flour, sugar, potato, steak, milk etc so please just give me a green salad.
Over the last few months, I have employed what I learned from the raw foodies to create a high nutrient diet for my mother. Having seen her go from ‘weeks away from death’ to a more robust state, I can verify that the use of superfoods and raw food principles works extremely well in cases such as hers. From being unable to lift a fork to guzzling down 1500 calories of nutrient dense drinks per day, with a meal when she requests it, she would have probably have died in hospital if I had not used my knowledge to take care of her. Nevertheless, I had to explain her diet over and over again to nurses with no nutritional knowledge or interest in learning anything. I then had to explain it to GPs and a dietician. I have no confidence at all, even after all these explanations, that they fully understand the implications of my mother’s life having been saved by this. Even now, they attempt to tell me that she should be eating more mince. (she hates it)
A great reason for doing it is in combination with use of your knowledge of herbal medicine, amino acid and antioxidant therapy. It is a particularly good base for this, and if you happen to sell health products, I am sure it is very lucrative. From my perspective however, I wanted to be able to regulate, medicate and ensure that my mother and in the past, myself, had the building blocks to repair actual damage, and a ‘normal’ diet would have slowed this down enormously.
Having said all of that, I choose to combine my ‘health crank’ raw foodism with some eggs and fish. This is not to denigrate all the people who do it without, I just find it works better for us as we do not like to think about food all day. It is still easier to say raw foodist than list all the things we avoid in order for her treatment to work.
My friend knows this, and still refers to us as having an eating disorder (he is an ex-nurse, so presumably old habits die hard. I had to explain poo to him a year or so back.) This from a guy with high blood pressure, anxiety and a host of other health problems, which vastly improved when I briefly managed to persuade him to do it. He is, of course rather jealous of Wolfe, as he was the perceived problem blocking my undivided attention.
Having been goaded into again ruining my own health by the aforementioned emotional garbage (see previous posts) of the last few years, I am having none of this. A normal diet makes me ill, is the bottom line. Now the awful Wolfe issue has finally been cleared up, he is nothing to do with it. I employ a vastly different knowledge base than he does anyway, as my original interest was from the European/Swiss tradition. I am just sick of being sick, basically, and I am more than tired of prioritising other people since it clearly does my health and well being no good at all.
So, when in doubt, do more research. This Paleo dude I am reading seems to have thought that raw foodism consisted of eating a bag of raw cabbage. If you thrive on that, I will happily shake you by the hand, but it isn’t really how you do it long term. The bottom line is that you are unlikely to be eating enough vegetables, and you are likely to be eating too much of everything else, so start from there if you cannot be bothered doing any further reading.